What is femininity in 2024?
why we are conditioned to be masculine and how I'm learning to lean in to my feminine energy this year
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It’s not something I had hugely thought about before this year, to be honest. ‘Femininity’ and ‘Masculinity’ seemed like antiquated terms for gender roles and behaviours that acted more as constraints than anything else.
However, after researching deeper on the subject within the realm of romantic relationships (mine, to be exact), I then delved in to the topic of Feminine vs Masculine energy. Now I was interested. As you may know, I love energetics, and this now became a subject I wanted to geek out on. I learned a lot and it changed the way I see femininity - and in contrast masculinity, which I’ll share in the rest of this newsletter.
The main thing I learned was that with both energies, we all need a bit of both. A healthy balance. I am a woman, and have both feminine and masculine energy - as should any man.
Feminine and masculine energy have nothing to do with your gender nor sexual preference, it is an energy.
We all embody both, because we are created from both. But often we end up living more in one due to conditioning. Within any romantic relationship, both parties cannot have excess of the same energy - it has to be ying and yang. And this is totally unconscious to us. Two people cannot both have excess feminine or masculine energy at the same time. There has to be a harmonious balance of both between a couple. So if someone is more in their masculine, the other partner (regardless of which sex they are) will naturally be pushed into their feminine energy. And vice versa. (I define the traits of both energies and how I’ve been leaning in to my feminine side below).
For me personally, I’ve realised I have been living in a dominant masculine energy most of my life. And this felt frustrating at this stage of life - and of relationship - because I was wanting to be looked after (finally, this felt safe) but I was so conditioned to be in my masculine that it was hard to lean in to my feminine. This is where my research into what femininity was, and how I could lean in to mine more, began.
What femininity is, and what it isn’t
it’s less about stereotypical ‘girlie’ things and more about sensuality
it is not an appearance, but an energy
Assurance in your aura
An ability to receive
Not bending over backwards to give
Trusting in the knowledge things will work out well
Not fretting over small things, but having the time to discover big things
How are we conditioned in to living in our masculine energy?
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